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It's been a long time since I have had a group of girlfriends. Since high school, all those years ago, I have surrounded myself with primarily male friends. Why? I've always found it much easier to get along with the guys rather than the girls. Why? Well, typically the men are much simpler to deal with. What you see is what you get. Women are far more complicated. In many cases they can be catty, snobbish, competitive, and generally too high-maintenance for my liking. I've felt this way my entire life. Ironically though in high school I had a group of friends primarily female, that I was always with, despite everything I've already stated. The group was full of the typical drama that follow groups of young women. Boy problems, internal fighting among the group, too much going on too often. I learned that even though we were all "friends" there was a lot of time wasted cutting each other down rather than picking each other up.
As we all went our separate ways in life, I kept almost exclusively male friends. We get along just fine. No cattiness, no backbiting, and more importantly no drama. I spent a LONG time without all that craziness. And I didn't miss it at all! Although, being the only female among men can be trying at times. Even though I loved being able to talk about anything, do anything I wanted, without risking the stink-eye from the rest of the group there was something very hard about being in that position. As the only female, you become the rock, you are expected to be able to talk about anything { which I highly valued actually }, listen to anything, but ironically it all takes a toll. You don't get to be girlie. You don't have the support you need without asking for it. You become one of the guys. Don't get me wrong, I loved being able to talk about anything with my friends, and I still do. It's just that.. well.. I'm a girl dammit! Sometimes, pink flowers, candles, lace are my things! I don't want to get all dolled up and not have it noticed!
So imagine my surprise now, so much later in life to have reunited with many of these same girls { women now.. }. Do I still feel the same way about female friends? Yes I do. However, a lot has happened. Life has happened. None of us are the same girls that we used to be. I have a feeling, that even though our newly reunited group has just started the beginning of our re-found friendship, we aren't going to end up the same way we did in school. I think we have all found a new appreciation for love, support, & girlfriends! At least I know I have. And it's been wonderful to have these ladies back in my life.
I have made this site to honor our newly re-established friendship! To remind us that our girls.. through the good and bad, are going to be our girls for life. And I can finally say that and know that it's true. So here's to the girls in your life & mine. Let us not go another 16 years without being friends ever again!
oXoXo
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